Starting your healing journey can be confusing when you know you need to heal but don’t know what you need to heal from or where to start. It can be confusing to tell the difference between inner child work, shadow work and general healing. Everyone has something they can benefit healing from, whether it’s deep rooted trauma or a specific situation that was distressing. Either way, starting your healing journey has many benefits.
What is Your Inner Child?
A simple way to start your journey is to begin showing your younger self infinite love. Your inner child is the child within you that has needs that are eager to be met. The state that your inner child is in will vary depending on your childhood experiences and how much you have or have not healed them. To heal your inner child is to give yourself everything you needed but didn’t receive. It’s a great way to rewrite your own story despite what happened in your childhood. Inner child work is also important is because it affects your daily behavior in adulthood.
Carl Jung (Psychiatrist) has a famous quote that says “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” Our core beliefs – deep rooted ideas/assumptions about yourself and how you see the world – that are developed as a child stick with us until we make a conscious effort to change them. Some examples of unhelpful core beliefs are “I’m never going to be enough”, “I’m not worthy of love”, or “Everyone I love will eventually leave me”. We operate from these assumptions even when we’re not aware of it and they determine what we do or don’t do.
A core belief I developed when I was younger was that I needed to dim my light to please others. I have had so many conflicting feelings about being different than the majority of people around me. I have often struggled with wanting to be accepted as most children do. While craving to be apart of “it” group, something always felt wrong. My inner child deeply wanted to be seen, accepted and validated by my peers so I made myself small to make sure I didn’t outshine others. This pattern turned into people pleasing behaviors that didn’t serve me and kept me in places longer that I should be. A few years into my journey and it’s something that I’m still unlearning.
Facing your old self, current self sabotaging behavior or childhood trauma isn’t easy yet it’s worth it.
Although healing is a lifetime process, there are intentional practices you can do to start the process. These practices are in the perspective of the younger you. Think about what you loved to do when you were a child and do those things. I loved the swing at the park when I was younger so I’d swing at the park now and have a ball!
25 Fun, Simple & Healing Activities:
- Set up a solo picnic with your favorite foods
- Go to a park and do your favorite activity
- Create more weekly play time in your life
- Play your favorite childhood game
- Purchase bubbles
- Purchase chalk and draw on the sidewalk
- Dance in the rain
- Have a date night in a floatie by the water with yourself
- Write a letter to the younger you
- Fall asleep to your favorite childhood show
- Ride a bike, scooter or skateboard
- Eat your typical after pool snack
- Eat the most memorable childhood snack
- Purchase an adult coloring book
- Read your favorite childhood book
- Paint a canvas
- Make an Apple/Spotify playlist of your favorite oldies
- Go stargazing and wish upon a star
- Sit in nature barefooted
- Read a picture book
- Complete a puzzle
- Camp in your backyard/balcony/patio
- Take a bubble bath with your favorite scent
- Play dress up with your favorite clothes
- Go to the amusement park
Now you have 25 possible activities that you can incorporate for a healing and hot girl summer. Sit back, relax, and play! Your inner child needs you so show them the attention they deserve this Summer but most of all – have fun!
Until next time,