One day, an old mentor of mine said to me, “You take risks but they’re calculated and they’re safe. They’re risks that you know you’ll be okay with. But you don’t take risks where you have no idea what is going to happen or how you’re going to make it through”
In that moment, I realized how little faith I had in God, myself and the journey.
The Four Agreements and The Alchemist recently reminded me that no one is responsible for achieving my dreams but me. If you think about what your blockages are surrounding following your dreams, I bet you that they come back to fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of being judged. Fear of being seen. Fear of failure.
And the list goes on.
Regardless of the fears that are present, moving through them is our responsibility in order to elevate.
The Four Agreements went into depth about how we’ve made unconscious agreements to certain things as children and as we become aware of these agreements, we must unlearn them. Sometimes unlearning is the hardest part of healing because once the awareness is present, guilt and shame kicks in for how we used to live. The bright side of healing is that we get to replace the unconscious agreement with a conscious agreement based on our new knowledge about ourselves and our lives.
The Alchemist emphasized that your “personal legend” also known as your purpose, isn’t meant to be understood by others. There will be a lot of people who don’t believe in your dreams but you cannot be one of them. No matter what happens, you have to be willing to believe in yourself even when it doesn’t make sense or your circumstances seem uncertain. You also have to be willing to dismantle other people’s projections and separate them from your own beliefs. When we don’t take the time to do this, we walk around living out stories we didn’t create and become distracted from our own path. Everyone won’t be able to see the vision and that’s okay! They aren’t supposed to. When we let someone’s lack of vision prevent us from following our heart, we aren’t in alignment with ourselves and the higher purpose that was specifically designed for us.
Following your dreams comes at a cost. It may call you to let go of people, beliefs, habits, environments, experiences, assumptions, and most importantly – your old self. The version of you that can’t exist in the pursuit of your dreams. It may also come at the cost of being consistently misunderstood and underrepresented.
Here are 5 questions to ask yourself on your journey:
- Am I willing to follow my dreams without instant gratification? Why or why not?
- Are the fears that I have about the journey ahead my own fears or someone else’s?
- Am I honoring myself in a way that aligns with my goals? If not, what tangible steps can I take to create change?
- What excuses are keeping me stuck?
- How far am I willing to go and what barriers am I willing to break through to achieve my dreams?
Some people spend their whole life wishing to be someone else or waiting to become a better version of themselves to be happy. Don’t let that be you!
Until next time,